The thing is, I don’t want to offend anybody. But, when I saw one of my friends that have a skin irritation, I can’t stop myself from being concern. After getting the jan marini information, I instantly check the list of skin conditions. And, the thing that I found from my friend matches that of eczema.
I’ve heard that he is in a bad financial situation now. That his money will just go to the food of his family rather than buying any other things including eczema treatment. I asked wiffy if it is possible to give the product. But, I did not get a clear answer. She said it’s okay to give because I am really concerned. But I might hurt his ego and feeling big time, which might cause me getting into trouble.
For now, I am still confused on what to do. He is really a good friend and I want to help. But, if helping will get us apart, then I’ll choose to remain in silence.
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You sound legitimately concerned and the way you handle it must reflect this. Have you ever read Dale Carnegie, he has a lot of great advice about saying things to people without hurting their feelings. But the first step would be to consider how YOU would feel being in his situation and what would sound most appropriate to your ears.
It is okay to give the ointment but only if it is done with respect. I mean, you’d know not to give it to him with a crowd around. You would know not to say..I know you are poor and I have more money than you so I got this for you. So I guess you have to ask why is that hurtful. Because in the first case, it is not a public matter. In the second case, it is not a matter of pity but a matter of empathy which is slightly different.
Anyway, here’s my idea. You can start from the beginning and say you accidentally noticed the sores, ask him if it bothers him much- in fact, ask him a lot of questions and you might be surprised how more relaxed he becomes.
Then tell him you have heard of a remedy- radio talk show maybe- and ask him if wants you to see if he can find the name of it. If he says no.. stop and forget it. If he says yeah, if you could.. Then buy the ointment and give it to him and just tell him you were in the pharmacy the other day and it was convenient to pick the stuff up. Wish him well. If he looks embarrassed, just tell him that you would expect him to do the same.
No need to humiliate him with pity about his financial situation etc. Some people are funny like that.