Love for Lasting Marriage?
Finding the “recipe” for love and at the same time for a happy marriage is what researchers have been busily working on these days. In their never-ending quest, they have managed not only to prove that true love does indeed last forever, but just recently, that it also takes more than just love to make a marriage work.
Surprisingly, at the end of the study they learned that love was not the only thing that mattered when it came to making marriage work. Things like, whether the two had lived together before their “I Do’s,” whether they smoked, age and pay gaps also weighed heavily in the balance. Not even love was strong enough to overcome age barriers, despite whatever we might have heard on the topic before. Thus, a husband who is nine or more years his wife’s senior has twice as many chances of asking for a divorce than men in relationships with women their age. The same percentage goes for men who marry before they’re 25.
Wanting to have children is also extremely important for marital bliss, especially if both partners do not wish to become parents to the same extent. For instance, the research has found that women who want children more than their spouses are more likely to ask for divorce later on. Partners with children from a previous relationship or couples who become parents before marriage are also doomed for a separation, the study has also found.
As expected, money is also very important in a marriage. Up to 16 percent of respondents who indicated they were poor or where the husband – not the wife – was unemployed saying they had separated, compared with only nine percent of couples with healthy finances. As it happens, this is not where the list of things that can save or doom a marriage ends, since smoking too is a very influential factor, with researchers showing the “mixed” couples (a smoker with a non-smoker) are less likely to make it happily ever after, as opposed to those whose partners smoke together or not at all.
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I’ve been married to the same man for 33 years. I was 21 and he was 25, I’m European White and he is Mexican Hispanic, I came from the midwest, he came from south Texas, I was a smoker, he wasn’t, he wanted a house full of kids, I wanted a couple (I came from a big family he didn’t) and we had 2.
We fought all the time but luckily he had careers that kept him out of town for almost 20 years. What we had was a deep commitment to one another and to the relationship and that was stronger than any argument, any financial shortfall, or any difference in opinion, etc.
I love him more now than I did when we got married, he’s my best friend and we’re in this until death due us part.
@ Mamaflo
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